It's not the load that breaks you down, it's the way you carry it.
— Lena Horne —
Consult legal experts in your organization or community to establish guidelines and informed consent forms that deal appropriately with child safety issues. DO-IT developed the sample documents contained in this chapter. You can modify them to meet the specific needs of your program. They are available online, along with the other content of this book at www.washington.edu/doit/creating-e-mentoring-community-how-do-it-does-it-and-how-you-can-do-it-too.
Complete the form below, attaching additional pages if necessary.
Name:
Postal Address:
City:
State:
Zip Code:
Home Phone:
Email:
List names and contact information for three references.
I have read and agree to the expectations listed for mentors as outlined in the Guidelines for Mentors publication. I authorize you to contact my references and process a background check.
Signature: ___________________________________________________
Congratulations on being accepted as a participant in the [name of program]! This program [description of program activities].
You will learn to use the Internet to explore your academic and career interests. You will communicate electronically from home using a computer, modem, software, an Internet network connection, and, if necessary, special adaptive technology. Frequent electronic communications and personal contacts will bring you together with mentors, who will promote your academic, career, and personal achievements. Mentors are college students and professionals in science, engineering, math, technology, and other fields, many with disabilities themselves.
You will develop and practice communication and leadership skills by becoming a peer mentor for incoming participants. You will also recruit students into the program.
After you graduate from high school, you have the option of becoming a mentor. Mentor responsibilities encompass those of other participants, with the addition of the following:
I'm sure you can think of one or more people in your life who have supplied information, offered advice, presented a challenge, initiated friendship, or simply expressed an interest in your development as a person. Without their intervention you might have remained on the same path, perhaps continuing a horizontal progression through your academic, career, or personal life.
Mentors are valuable resources to you. As guides, counselors, teachers, and friends, they inspire and facilitate academic, career, and personal achievements. Relationships developed with your mentors become channels for the passage of information, advice, opportunities, challenges, and sup-port with the ultimate goals of facilitating achievement and having fun.
To get to know mentors:
Safety is an important issue for anyone using the Internet but even more so for minors. It is important that you learn how to identify potential danger and avoid it. Read Kids' Rules for Online Safety, published at SafeKids.com, www.safekids.com/kids-rules-for-online-safety.
Our program promotes group mentoring, in which groups of mentors and protégés discuss ideas and a staff member is always part of the discussion. You should not give out personal information to people you do not already know. Do not respond to electronic messages that you receive from anyone if you are not comfortable with the content. Immediately report offensive or troubling electronic mail messages to your parents and program staff.
Follow these electronic mail guidelines.
We encourage you to pursue your interests in college studies and careers. Program activities are to help you in these efforts. To remain on the program team you must be "active." You are considered active if you do, at the minimum, all of the following:
Acknowledgment: These guidelines were adapted from the DO-IT publication Guidelines for DO-IT Scholars and Ambassadors at www.washington.edu/doit/guidelines-do-it-scholars-and-ambassadors. Permission is granted to reproduce this content provided the source is acknowledged.
Most of us can think of people in our lives, more experienced than ourselves, who taught us something new, offered advice, presented a challenge, initiated friendship, or simply expressed an interest in our development as a person. They helped us negotiate an uphill path or find an entirely new path to a goal in our academic, career, or personal lives. They showed us a world larger than our neighborhood. They pointed out talents that we hadn't noticed in ourselves and stimulated ideas about what we might be able to accomplish. They nudged us when we needed a nudge.
Adult mentors are an important part of the [name of program] team. Mentors are college students, faculty, and professionals in a wide variety of career fields, many with disabilities themselves. Protégés are participants in the [name of program]. Most mentoring takes place on the Internet. Electronic communication eliminates the challenges imposed by time, distance, and disability that are characteristic of in-person mentoring. Frequent electronic communications and personal contacts bring participants together with mentors to facilitate academic, career, and personal achievements.
As a mentor you offer the following:
Program staff facilitate communication in small groups through the use of electronic discussion lists. For example, one group includes both mentors and protégés who are blind. They discuss common interests and concerns such as independent living, speech and Braille output systems for computers, and options for displaying images and mathematical expressions. Introducing protégés to mentors with similar disabilities is a strength of the program.
As a mentor, you are a valuable resource to your protégés. As a guide, counselor, and friend, you inspire and facilitate academic, career, and personal achievements. The developmental transitions faced by young people in each of these areas are enriched by your experience, wisdom, and guidance.
Your role as a mentor is a mix of friend and teacher. Relationships developed with your protégés become channels for the passage of information, advice, challenges, opportunities, and support, with the ultimate goals of facilitating achievement and having fun.
How is this accomplished? There are probably as many mentoring styles as there are personality types, and no one can be everything to one person. Each protégé benefits from contact with several mentors. The challenge and fun of mentoring is developing your own personal style for sharing the special strengths and skills you have to offer.
Following are a few suggestions for getting started and staying active as a mentor. Program staff welcome your ideas for suggestions to pass on to future mentors. Happy mentoring!!
To get started as a mentor:
All DO-IT mentors are volunteers, and we know that mentoring takes a lot of time. The following are some guidelines to follow when considering whether you have the time and the willingness to be a mentor.
Follow these electronic guidelines.
The Internet is a sea filled with adventure. By sailing the waters we can explore the world, unlock mysteries, and meet new people. But like any sea, it has dangerous elements as well. Safety is an important issue for anyone using the Internet but even more so for minors. It is important that we teach our young people how to identify potential danger and avoid it.
Our program promotes group mentoring, in which groups of mentors and protégés discuss ideas and a staff member is always part of the discussion. Participants are told not to give out personal information to people they do not already know and not to respond to electronic messages that they receive from anyone if they are not comfortable with the content. They should immediately report offensive or troubling electronic mail messages to their parents and/or program staff.
For more information about the safety of minors on the Internet we suggest you read Kids' Rules for Online Safety, published at SafeKids.com, www.safekids.com/kids-rules-for-online-safety.
Acknowledgment: These guidelines were adapted from the DO-IT publication DO-IT Mentors: Helping Young People Prepare for Their Future at www.washington.edu/doit/do-it-mentors. Permission is granted to reproduce this content provided the source is acknowledged.
Name of Participant:
Parent/Guardian Name:
Parent/Guardian Postal Address:
Parent/Guardian Email Address:
Parent/Guardian Telephone Number(s):
I wish to participate in the [program name] online community. I have read the Protégé Guidelines, understand the information presented, and agree to the conditions for participation.
Signature of Participant and Date: ______________________________/____________
I have read the Protégé Guidelines, understand the information presented, and give permission for _____________________ [participant name] to participate in the [program name] online community. I understand that it is my responsibility to supervise my child's use of the Internet and enforce safety guidelines such as Kids' Rules for Online Safety, published at SafeKids.com, www.safekids.com/kids-rules-for-online-safety.
Name of Parent/Guardian: _________________________________________________
Signature of Parent/Guardian and Date: ___________________________/_________